These are our filters. You might wonder: Gee, how can we agree on anything, when we so differently filter our world?
Good question. We are able to generalize on experiences and agree on these experiences, even though our filters are just as unique as our personality. It is truly miraculous that we do agree on descriptions of our world.
Our filters are working right now at this moment and our internal representation of this event is happening right now. How it goes is this:
- First, you experience an EVENT coming through your five senses,
- You delete, distort, and generalize it through your INTERNAL FILTERS,
- You will have an INTERNAL REPRESENTATION,
- That puts you in a certain STATE
- Which creates a certain PHYSIOLOGY,
- Which then ultimately determines your BEHAVIOR
“Remember that in this model the map, the Internal Representation, is not the territory. Our every experience is something that we literally makeup inside our heads. We do not experience reality directly, since we are always deleting, distorting, and generalizing. Essentially, what we do experience is our experience of the territory and not the territory itself.” by Dr. Tad James
The match between our verbal and non-verbal communication indicates the level of congruence. This congruence can be learned and perfected by learning and practicing NLP. Great examples of congruence between verbal and non-verbal communication: Barack Obama, Hillary Clinton, Bill Clinton, Oprah, Caesar Millan.
(For Reference see Structure of Magic II by Dr. Richard Bandler and Superior Human Relationship by V.N. Pathak, Dr. Tad James – NLP Practitioner Training).